The secret to success is not to try to avoid or get rid of or shrink from your problems. The secret is to grow yourself so that you are bigger than any problem.
If you have a big problem in your life, All that means is that you are being a small person. Don't be fooled by appearances. Your outer world is merely a reflection of your inner world. If you want to make permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of YOU!!