I know the title is not grammatically correct but I hear myself saying this from time to time. There are so many people that easily and freely give advice. For the most part I believe that they have good intentions. However, I also believe that there are those that reflexively impart their "wisdom" in self defense. Not because they are threatened but because their sense of self or self esteem is threatened. There are occasions when I have caught myself solving other people's issues and my desired result was that their behavior would have less impact on me. I have counseled my children so that their lives would look more like I wanted. With love of course but it is easy now for me to see that their growth, decisions and learning are their own. My meddling can only hurt. I remember listening to speakers live and recorded telling me not to take advice from anyone. More specifically, not to take advice from someone that would not benefit from my growth.
Who should I listen to? Another problem I run into is that I actually give more weight to advice that sounds like something I would say. I don't have to tell you, that's not going to help.
My conclusion is that my objective must be as clear and well defined as possible. I must listen to the highest version of myself and avoid the whisperings of those that are unwilling to rise to the highest levels. I am committed to becoming the best version of myself.