Being attached means that something outside of our control must occur. It is a belief that our happiness is subject to external events. Attachment is ultimate victim hood. We will only be happy if. . . In order to reduce my need to control everything I have learned that I must slice my perspective of every one of my desired outcomes into at least two realms. Things that I can control and things I can't control. I am certainly less impacted when things don't happen the way I want them to happen if what went wrong was outside of my influence. However, I have found that there is very little outside of my influence and I must be even more responsible and more proactive. I can be less attached if I have done everything I can and left very little possibility of failure to chance. This is a daily challenge because taking responsibility for everything is not something I have totally embraced. I am working on it. I will tell you how in my next entry.